The high school road to college may seem like four of the most challenging years families face. Along with the deadlines and tough financial choices, parents and their children don’t always agree on colleges. If that isn’t stressful enough, every year there are tasks that high school students should be checking off their to-do list.
How do parents help their high school students navigate all the details and decisions they must make during their countdown to college? Here is some advice from the pros — a parent who’s been through the process and a college admissions counselor.
The right question to start the conversation
Rick Clark, an undergraduate admissions counselor, says the parent-child conversation needs to start with the right question.
“Parents ask, ‘Where do you want to go to college?,’ “Clark says, but he big question that parents don’t ask or lose sight of is, ‘Why do you want to go to college?’ “
That why is important, Clark says, and should be followed up with questions like “What do you hope to get out of this? What do you want to study? What do you want to do long-term?”
Freshman year – GPA is important
Rachael Fain, a mom of three, stresses the importance of the GPA during freshman year. Fain’s daughter, Hannah, graduated from college in 2017. Fain also has two sons. Matthew graduated college in 2020, and Andrew is a college senior. “My children started taking high school classes in eighth grade,” Fain says. “A GPA is harder to bring up in junior and senior year, so our goal their eighth and ninth grade years was to keep their GPAs high.”
The freshman year is also important for getting on a challenging track of classes. “Course choice is important,” Clark says. “Math in particular is something students need to pay attention to.”
Taking challenging classes in high school helped Matthew Fain make his college decision. He decided to pursue his degree at the university where he took dual credit courses when he was in high school.
Andrew also took dual credit courses in high school to lighten his load once he got to college. That worked out well when Covid hit and Andrew took a semester off but did not fall behind in his course work.
Sophomore year — personality tests, PSAT and considering the size and type of college
Tenth grade is a good year for self-reflection. Students can take personality tests and the PSAT to figure out their strengths and weaknesses. They can also start thinking about the kind and size of school they want to attend.
Understanding what they are good at will help high school students be realistic about the school that is the best fit for them.
Junior year — grades are crucial; activities count, too
Grades are crucial during the junior year. Junior year also involves a more challenging track of classes and leadership roles in clubs and activities. It’s hard to do it all, so how important are the extracurricular activities? It depends on the student and the college.
“At one of my children’s colleges, extracurricular activities were really important,” Fain says. “At the other one, they didn’t matter as much.”
Clark says one out of every four students who apply to the school where he works are accepted. “Most students that apply have good test scores, good grades and good courses. Then the review committee asks ‘Is this kid a good fit for us?’”
Clark says they look for students who are innovative or who are entrepreneurs, and they ask “How does this student use their time? If they are a good student who goes home and plays video games, what will they contribute to the school?” Clark says.
Senior year — finding a good fit
Clark says the most important thing about making a college decision is finding a good fit. For example, Clark says two universities can look the same on paper. A student will apply to each with the same grades and same test scores and get accepted to one and not the other. “That is what fit is,” Clark says. “How a student fits with a school, not just from an academic standpoint.”
The good news is that there are many schools across the country and probably more than one of them will match your student’s personality and academic standing. “If you or your child feels overwhelmed, take a deep breath and remember there is a school for every student,” says Fain.
Countdown to College Checklist
Freshman Year
• Talk to your parents and guidance counselor at the beginning of the year to set goals.
• Take the most challenging courses available to you.
• Make good grades.
• Try a variety of activities.
• Take advantage of opportunities to visit college campuses when you travel.
Sophomore Year
• Visit college and career fairs. If you are social distancing, schedule virtual tours of colleges of interest or consider self-guided tours on campuses.
• Build your resume. Make a list of awards, accomplishments, and activities.
• Take the PSAT for practice. It won’t count until you are a junior.
• Start studying for the ACT and SAT. There are many test prep guides available online and in book form.
• Assess your strengths and weaknesses and take a personality inventory.
• Research possible careers.
• During the summer begin researching colleges that might be a good fit.
Junior Year
• Take the PSAT.
• Accept leadership roles in the activities that suit you best.
• Narrow your list of possible careers and possible colleges.
• Take the ACT and SAT.
• During the summer volunteer or find an internship or job related to your future career.
• Write a college entrance essay draft. Have it critiqued by a guidance counselor or teacher.
Senior Year
• Narrow your college search to six to eight schools. Schedule visits to those.
• Post all important deadline dates on a wall calendar.
• Retake the ACT or SAT if needed.
• Polish your resume.
• Ask for teacher recommendations.
• Send out all your college applications.
• After you receive your acceptance letters, compare scholarship and financial aid packages and make your final decision. Notify all the schools.
• Celebrate the beginning of a new timeline at college!
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