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NORTH STATE PARENT FAMILY RESOURCE GUIDE SPRING/SUMMER 2022 FAMILY LIFE & SUPPORT
Adverse Childhood Experiences: One Caring Adult Can Make A Difference
By Alexandra Biegel, MPH
Shasta County Health and Human Services Agency Strengthening Families Collaborative Coordinator Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Coordinator
“The most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.” – Jane D. Hull
Early exposure to trauma and toxic stress (pro- longed stress without emotional support) changes the brains and bodies of growing chil-
dren. When the brain is in survival mode, development is affected and has lasting impacts on physical, mental, and social health, including cancer, obesity, diabetes, heart disease, mental illness, substance use, depression and suicide. This contributes to difficulty forming healthy relationships, earning an education and holding down successful jobs. These impacts can also be passed down to our children.
ACEs are traumatic events in a child’s first 18 years
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) are ten com- mon traumatic events that may happen to a child at any time from birth to age 18. ACEs are grouped into three categories: abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction. Abuse includes physical, emotional and sexual abuse. Ne- glect includes physical or emotional neglect and mental illness. Household dysfunction includes having an incar- cerated relative, having a mother who is teated violently, substance abuse and parental abandonment or divorce.
Shasta County’s ACE rates are much higher than the state average
An individual’s “ACE score” can be anywhere from 0 to 10 and is determined by how many of these 10 events happened to them during their childhood.
Experiencing some ACEs can increase the risk of experi- encing other ACEs. The higher the ACE score, the higher the risk of negative health outcomes. Preventing ACEs can lead to many benefits including healthier relation- ships, better grades in school, fewer mental health prob- lems and behavior problems; and less substance abuse, violence and criminal activity.
In 2012, a local ACE study revealed that almost 40% of Shasta County residents reported four or more ACEs — more than double the 17% reported for all of California.
Only 16% of Shasta County residents reported having no ACEs compared to 38% for all of California.
Everyone can make a positive difference in a child’s
life
If you experienced trauma as a child, you are not alone. No matter your ACE Score, you can make a positive difference in a child’s life. It only takes one caring and con- sistent adult to help children thrive.
According to California Surgeon General Dr. Nadine Burke Harris, “Safe, stable, and nurturing relationships and environments in which children feel safe emotional- ly and physically can protect children’s brains and bodies from the harmful effects of stress.”
Children will engage more when they have mean- ingful relationships with important people in their lives — most importantly, their parents. When parents and other adults show children they care about them, chal- lenge them to grow, and support their needs, powerful and positive relationships are formed.
Raising a child with feelings of stability and trust
Children need parents and mentors they can count on. Raising a child with structure and age-appropriate consequences, along with love and affection, gives them feelings of stability and trust. When parents are consistent in how their household runs, their children will have high- er self-esteem and greater confidence.
Parents who listen to their children’s concerns when they are young are parents whose children will share their concerns with them when they are older. Taking the time to ask your child in-depth questions after school, spend- ing more time playing with your children, including your children in preparing family dinners, and spending time talking and reading with them before they go to sleep are everyday actions parents can take that make a big im- pact.
Your children learn from your example
Remember, your children learn from you. They hear your words and watch your actions. By calming yourself when you feel angry or slowing down when you feel stressed, you are teaching your children by example. It’s not uncommon to remind your child to say “please” and “thank you.” Go one step further and say something kind to a stranger, pick up trash off the ground, or show your children that it’s considerate to share with others.
Doing these things in front of your child will encour- age them to do the same.
Every child is unique. They each have different strengths, interests, and struggles. Parenting techniques change as children grow up.
If you’re trying, you’re not failing — ACEs are prevent-
able
You may feel lost at times, like you aren’t doing any- thing right and like you’re failing as a parent. Don’t let these feelings keep you from reaching out to other par- ents and sharing your experience. If you’re trying, you’re not failing. No matter your child’s age or stage in life, be- ing an attentive to their needs and spending quality time teaching and loving them is what positive parenting is all about.
ACEs are preventable. We can prevent them by rais- ing awareness and educating other parents, community members, and leaders of the effects of childhood trauma. The more we understand, the more we can prevent ACEs from happening in the first place and lessen the harmful effects of ACEs that have already happened.
Preventing ACEs and strengthening families helps children reach their full potential in life. You can make a difference.
Learn more about Preventing ACEs and Strengthen- ing Families at ShastaStrengtheningFamilies.org and ACEsAware.org
Quality time with your kids is what positive parenting is all about.
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