Uniquely Us: How to Make the IEP Process a Little Less Stressful

For most parents of special needs children, Individualized Education Plan (IEP) meetings are a routine part of life once their child is old enough to start school. Regardless of whether you are new to the process or have been navigating the special education system for years, IEPs can be a little overwhelming.

We have been attending IEP meetings since 2009 when our daughter Lilly transitioned out of home-based early intervention services and into preschool at the age of three. Although I am far from an expert, I have found some ways to prepare for an IEP meeting that can make the situation a little less stressful and a lot more productive.

• First, and most importantly, document everything and bring the documents along.
• Keep records organized in a binder where you can easily locate them. Helpful items are reports from doctors, therapists or case managers about your child’s disability, as well as a log of time spent, and the specific activities, you do at home with your child to support their needs in school.
• Start a list of questions, concerns and requests well before the meeting so you can jot them down as you think of them.
• Talk to someone who has been through the process to get an idea of what to expect. Although every case is different, there may be valuable insight to be gained from someone who has “been there.”
• Do as much research as you can beforehand and be aware of your rights.
• Speak to an advocate if you feel overwhelmed, feel like your concerns are not being heard, or if you are unclear about anything at all. Many times, advocates will attend an IEP meeting with parents for support.
• Keep calm. I know this is easier said than done. The worst thing you can do is walk into a meeting with a chip on your shoulder; most of the time this accomplishes nothing. Try and remember that everyone is there for a common goal—to support your child as best they can.
• Lastly, you got this! You are the strongest advocate your child will ever have.

For more info on IEP classes or to talk with a parent advocate, contact Rowell Family Empowerment Center at 530-226-5129 or empoweryourfamily.org.

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