Marriage While Parenting

Which is more important, your marriage or your children? The answer is your marriage, and the answer is your children. The answer is neither. The answer is both. The answer, actually, is to begin asking a different question altogether. Our kids should never be more important than our marriage, and they should never be less important…Family is … [Read more...]

Dating After Kids: Couples Connect with Fun

Once you’ve become a parent, planning a date can often feel like more work than it's worth. It can seem like those eagerly anticipated dates of early courtship become fewer and farther between as your relationship matures. However, the more often you orchestrate one-on-one time, the easier it gets. It just might be the key to keeping a relationship … [Read more...]

Let’s All Admit We Love a Stranger

“I feel like I don’t know you anymore.” Usually, we think this means the end of a relationship. What if it means a relationship can finally get started? My wife and I have been married for fourteen years so I’m absolutely certain I know why she is not returning my text messages. When I left her this morning she was quiet and sullen about … [Read more...]

A Weekend of Freedom: Getaways for Re-igniting the Spark

Despite the joys and rewards of being a parent, the responsibility of raising children often leaves little time or energy to nurture one’s marriage, as many parents will attest. This is not only unhealthy to the marriage – it also can affect the way parents relate to their kids. Moreover, adults often bring to their own marriages what they … [Read more...]

The Nine Most Overlooked Threats To A Marriage

I feel bad for marital communication, because it gets blamed for everything. For generations, in survey after survey, couples have rated marital communication the number one problem in marriage. It’s not … Marital communication is getting a bad rap. It’s like the kid who fights back on the playground. The playground supervisors hear a commotion … [Read more...]

Pearls of Wisdom

Do you ever wonder how some marriages just seem golden, and what the secret to a long-term relationship is? Do you know what it takes to keep your marriage going strong?  “Seasoned” local couples share their perspectives on relationship success and ways they make their marriages work. We hope that you too, discover new ways of increasing the … [Read more...]

The Art of Seeing Your Children When They’re Not Even There

Your husband wants you to come searching for him. Your wife wants you to come searching for her. But there is one person who wants you to come searching for them even more than your spouse. That person is your child. When our children are young, they want to know we are thinking of them, remembering them even when apart. They feel anchorless … [Read more...]

Why One Text Message is More Romantic Than a Hundred Valentine Cards

On Valentine’s Day, we try to purchase romance with one night of intense togetherness. But romance can’t be purchased, and the most romantic things may be the things we do for each other when we’re not together. I was an adult when I met my wife, but she turned my world upside down – I dropped about a decade from my psyche and started acting like … [Read more...]

How to Accept the Things That Drive Us Crazy in a Marriage

We spend most of our marriages trying to change our partners. Ironically, the most important change we can make is to accept more of the good but crazy-making things about each other… In the spring of 1999, a film called Jerry Maguire left a permanent mark on pop culture, with three little phrases: “Show me the money.” “You had me at … [Read more...]

The Art of Apology

Everyone makes mistakes that can hurt someone else’s feelings. And at some time in their lives, nearly everyone has purposefully hurt another’s feelings. Most people have also done something (on purpose or not) that has ruined a material object belonging to another. When a person learns to truthfully apologize for their mistakes or misactions, they … [Read more...]