Pearls of Wisdom

art-515-pearlsDo you ever wonder how some marriages just seem golden, and what the secret to a long-term relationship is? Do you know what it takes to keep your marriage going strong?  “Seasoned” local couples share their perspectives on relationship success and ways they make their marriages work. We hope that you too, discover new ways of increasing the respect and love for yourself and your partner as a central theme, and feel encouraged to set aside special time for togetherness. May you find ideas, helpful reminders and inspiration for your own relationship in these Pearls of Wisdom.


“We have been married for 15 years and have two kids (ages 20 & 13). A key component to our success has been intimacy. Touch is so important in a relationship – a simple hug/kiss before you leave the house is a physical reminder that you care. We stay connected this way and use it as an example to show our kids that you never leave without making sure you say “goodbye.” Fellas, she will appreciate you getting out of your truck/car to come back in and give her that affection (easy points!!). We also read The Five Love Languages. It’s an easy read and highlights some basic personality types and what make those personalities truly happy. This was very helpful in making sure we each feel appreciated.” – Jeff & Wendi Marsh, Chico


“Todd and I have been married 19 years and have two kids, ages 7 and 5. Keys to our marriage include laughing a lot and definitely being honest with each other in good times and bad. There is nothing more important than openly communicating with each other, even if it is to say that you are not sure how to communicate with each other. We got married respectively at 19 and 21, so staying together for 19 years has been a challenge, to say the least, but I have never been more happy in my life. Now that we have kids, trying to make time to be alone is sooooo important. We try to have a date night or weekend at least once a month and try to get away to another city or even an outdoor destination during those dates.” – Aly Evirs, Redding


“From the first days of dating, to many years of marriage and four grown kids, Huck and I find the same simple kindnesses that started this life-long love are what keep the fire burning each day. In life it can be easy to get side tracked and forget WHY we wanted so badly to marry. We focus on what started it all and keep that love, passion and respect at the front of our lives.” – Huck and Vicki Leide, Redding


“Betty and I have been married for 43 years, and have a wonderful son, Nathan, age 33. Sometimes it just seems like destiny and chemistry make it work, like being together was just meant to be. But it does take work as well as fate. A vital part of our relationship is to try to always be patient, flexible and generous with each other. Many people in relationships, even older ones, can still act like spoiled kids and demand the other satisfy their self-centered expectations. Both can and should be strong individuals, but good luck for a lasting relationship if they haven’t learned to patiently and generously share love, time, money, laughter and tears – not to mention the bathroom.” – Merle Anderson, Mt. Shasta


“David and I have been married 38 years and have two sons, ages 36 & 31. The two most important ‘pearls’ we have to share are to listen with your heart to what each other is saying, and be willing to work through things that are hard.” – Jan Clowser, Chico. 

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